There was an office event a fortnight ago. The organizer or rather the person-in-charge had a miscommunication somewhere with a friend of mine regarding the running of the show. She was mistaken my friend as me and that had been settled right on. As my friend was entrusted with a task for the event, I was still not involved as I had something else to attend to.
Later when I got to know that my task was cancelled, being a good friend I am, I informed him. Initially I had already agreed to help him out with his task, in preparing the speech that is. I offered my assistance though previously there was already a task in hand. Instead of asking me to assist him with the task he practically wanted me to take up the task and let him off the hook. What a friend! He had the cheek to blame me for the task he got saying that the task was actually mine to take. He said that he accepted the task on my behalf and the task was rightfully mine. Since when does a person accepts a task on behalf of another person. Though I had taken similar tasks in the past that does not entitled me as the owner of the task. A true friend surely would not want to trouble another friend with more work. I have never accepted tasks on his behalf and I expected the same. I truly do not get this.
He let of his steam in front of my office and even said that he regretted helping me out. What help? Does he mean accepting the task on my behalf as helping a friend? Does putting me to the task while he backed out is defined as helping me? I was dragged into the picture without me knowing. I did not know anything about the task yet the organizer had been telling my friend that I had all the details. I went to one of the meeting still, and in her exact words, the lady organizer said that I was never involved. They just needed me to help out my friend with the speech preparation, basically work behind the scene. Later I went to my friend’s room and explained the whole situation clearly but did he listen. Nope. I was never at fault and I would never stab him in the back. Being in the office/organization longer than I am, he should know better how the seniors act and carry out their task or duties. Juniors like us always being pushed around and taken advantage of. He should know that. We should outsmart them and stick together. But did he listen? Nope. After all that explanation, after all that I had done to bail him out, he still thinks that I was at fault. It is easy pointing fingers to blame others. He just wanted somebody to blame and sadly his fingers are pointing at me, a friend he had known for nearly a decade. What a friend he is!
Knowing that he was uncomfortable and somehow trapped in the task, I tried to bail him out. This was all after he let off his steam. I told the lady organizer that this was too much. She had better appoint somebody else neither me nor my friend, as things were going to get worse. That lady did not listen. I got her to at least ask him whether he is still on for the task or is he uncomfortable with the job. The lady asked him and he said he is ok with the task. Now why would he do that? I thought if he is not ok with the task, just say so. I had done my best to let him off the hook, both of us. Now he said he wants the task. I am confused. He had the second chance to back out but he did not. Later he said that he wanted to look good in front of the seniors/management. And if that is the case, do not blame me. Do not go around with that sour face. Why should he blame me of the task when he wanted to look good? Why still blame me when I am not the one who appointed him to the task? Why blame me while he accepted the task when he had the chance to get out? Now my friend and I are not on talking terms. At least he is. I am still the same me like before all of this ever happened. Well what to do. He simply can blame me over something that I did not do, when we have been friends for 10 years. Where is justice in that? He should know me better as I know him very well. Hopefully, one day he will realize his mistakes and change for the better. However, I am not going to be bogged down by this petty thing. One thing for sure, Life goes on.
C’est la vie
Later when I got to know that my task was cancelled, being a good friend I am, I informed him. Initially I had already agreed to help him out with his task, in preparing the speech that is. I offered my assistance though previously there was already a task in hand. Instead of asking me to assist him with the task he practically wanted me to take up the task and let him off the hook. What a friend! He had the cheek to blame me for the task he got saying that the task was actually mine to take. He said that he accepted the task on my behalf and the task was rightfully mine. Since when does a person accepts a task on behalf of another person. Though I had taken similar tasks in the past that does not entitled me as the owner of the task. A true friend surely would not want to trouble another friend with more work. I have never accepted tasks on his behalf and I expected the same. I truly do not get this.
He let of his steam in front of my office and even said that he regretted helping me out. What help? Does he mean accepting the task on my behalf as helping a friend? Does putting me to the task while he backed out is defined as helping me? I was dragged into the picture without me knowing. I did not know anything about the task yet the organizer had been telling my friend that I had all the details. I went to one of the meeting still, and in her exact words, the lady organizer said that I was never involved. They just needed me to help out my friend with the speech preparation, basically work behind the scene. Later I went to my friend’s room and explained the whole situation clearly but did he listen. Nope. I was never at fault and I would never stab him in the back. Being in the office/organization longer than I am, he should know better how the seniors act and carry out their task or duties. Juniors like us always being pushed around and taken advantage of. He should know that. We should outsmart them and stick together. But did he listen? Nope. After all that explanation, after all that I had done to bail him out, he still thinks that I was at fault. It is easy pointing fingers to blame others. He just wanted somebody to blame and sadly his fingers are pointing at me, a friend he had known for nearly a decade. What a friend he is!
Knowing that he was uncomfortable and somehow trapped in the task, I tried to bail him out. This was all after he let off his steam. I told the lady organizer that this was too much. She had better appoint somebody else neither me nor my friend, as things were going to get worse. That lady did not listen. I got her to at least ask him whether he is still on for the task or is he uncomfortable with the job. The lady asked him and he said he is ok with the task. Now why would he do that? I thought if he is not ok with the task, just say so. I had done my best to let him off the hook, both of us. Now he said he wants the task. I am confused. He had the second chance to back out but he did not. Later he said that he wanted to look good in front of the seniors/management. And if that is the case, do not blame me. Do not go around with that sour face. Why should he blame me of the task when he wanted to look good? Why still blame me when I am not the one who appointed him to the task? Why blame me while he accepted the task when he had the chance to get out? Now my friend and I are not on talking terms. At least he is. I am still the same me like before all of this ever happened. Well what to do. He simply can blame me over something that I did not do, when we have been friends for 10 years. Where is justice in that? He should know me better as I know him very well. Hopefully, one day he will realize his mistakes and change for the better. However, I am not going to be bogged down by this petty thing. One thing for sure, Life goes on.
C’est la vie
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