Letting Go

Nature knows when to let go. Man, in his presumption, wants to hold on forever to things and events as they are avoiding change at all costs but in the process, he destroys both himself and the things he loves most. When we reach a point of self-destruction in situations or relationships, it is time to look at ourselves, the situation or relationships in an honest, non-judgmental loving way. We need to be courageous enough to look within and discover the cause.

All too often we try to put the blame on others or on outside circumstances in an effort to avoid facing the truth about ourselves. We allow our mind to fabricate lies to protect ourselves from the truth which, in fact, would free us if we accepted it. For a man to know himself it is necessary to have the proper space and time to unravel the questions and doubts that assail him. After much introspection and self-questioning, letting go of the situation or relationships is sometimes the only sensible answer. Letting go doesn’t mean turning off love, holding any blame or ill will towards the other person. It means loosening our grip on people and things, and allowing that divine intelligence within to guide us in discovering the true self.

We always want to hold and possess forever the feelings love arouses within us. In fact, we even try to possess other person and change him/her according to our expectations. Letting go means looking at ourselves honestly, loving others as they are, allowing them the freedom to be themselves, though it may differ with what we would want them to be. How do we know when to let go? If a relationship reaches the point where one individual refuses to accept the other as he is, it’s time to step back and take an honest look at what is happening. It may be uncomfortable, painful but one tremendous growth and insight in personal and spiritual ways. Realize within ourselves that we are worthy of love, acceptance, and happiness as we are, not as someone else’s ideas of us. We are unique and special as we are.

Letting go frees us to love the past, accept the present and to plan and create the future.