Siapakah orang yang...

Siapakah orang yang sibuk?

Orang yang sibuk adalah orang yang tidak mengambil berat akan waktu solatnya seolah-olah ia mempunyai kerajaan seperti kerajaan Nabi Sulaiman a.s

Siapakah orang yang manis senyumannya?

Orang yang mempunyai senyuman yang manis adalah orang yang ditimpa musibah lalu dia kata "Inna lillahi wainna illaihi rajiuun." Lalu sambil berkata,"Ya Rabbi Aku redha dengan ketentuan Mu ini", sambil mengukir senyuman.

Siapakah orang yang kaya?

Orang yang kaya adalah orang yang bersyukur dengan apa yang ada dan tidak lupa akan kenikmatan dunia yang sementara ini.

Siapakah orang yang miskin?

Orang yang miskin adalah orang tidak puas dengan nikmat yang ada sentiasa menumpuk-numpukkan harta.

Siapakah orang yang rugi?

Orang yang rugi adalah orang yang sudah sampai usia pertengahan namun masih berat untuk melakukan ibadat dan amal-amal kebaikan.

Siapakah orang yang paling cantik?

Orang yang paling cantik adalah orang yang mempunyai akhlak yang baik.

Siapakah orang yang mempunyai rumah yang paling luas?

Orang yang mempunyai rumah yang paling luas adalah orang yang mati membawa amal-amal kebaikan di mana kuburnya akan di perluaskan saujana mata memandang.

Siapakah orang yang mempunyai rumah yang sempit lagi dihimpit?

Orang yang mempunyai rumah yang sempit adalah orang yang mati tidak membawa amal-amal kebaikan lalu kuburnya menghimpitnya.

Siapakah orang yang mempunyai akal?

Orang yang mempunyai akal adalah orang-orang yang menghuni syurga kelak kerana telah menggunakan akal sewaktu di dunia untuk menghindari siksa neraka.

Bandung Visit: 2006 Part II

Nie ada lagi gambar-gambar masa bercuti di Bandung ngan family aku tahun lepas. Tahun nie hanya family kecil aku tak pegi sebab wife aku pregnant masa tu. So sedara mara yang lain semua pegi. Bukannya apa Bandung nie seronok sebagai tempat percutian dan membeli-belah. Cuacanya pun tak panas, dingin je. Tapi rasanya Air Asia tak nak fly ke Bandung lagi kot sebab airport Bandung nie tak dibesarkan lagi.

Bawah nie gambar bersantai lepas shopping. Minum dan makan malam di restoran tepi shopping outlet.

Nie gambar salah sebuah rumah yang menghiasi Jalan Ir. Hj Juanda dekat dengan hotel yang aku tinggal. Sebelahnya gambar depan salah satu shopping outlet yang aku pegi, tak ingat plak namanya sebab banyak sangat outlet kitaorang pegi. Aku kira gambar rumah tu klasik sebab rumah tu bercirikan zaman Belanda. Entah le aku nie memang le anti penjajah tapi benda yang kolonial nie memang ada seni artistik tersendiri. Tapi jangan salah anggap ya, aku tak membelakangkan seni tempatan. Banyak seni tempatan yang aku suka dan kagum. Nanti ada masa aku akan letakkan gambar rumah papan kat KL, klasik jugak. Gambar tu aku tangkap dan develop hitam putih.

Nie plak ramai-ramai dah habis makan tengahari kat KFC. Makan value meal 'goceng', harganya Rp. 5000 dalam RM2, ada kepak ayam dan nasi yang dikepal-bungkus macam burger, sup kosong dan air. Ok le tuh kan tapi tak le mengenyangkan sangat sebab alahai kepak ayam bape besor le sangat kan! So kena le tambah dgn burger ke ayam ke. So bila dah kenyang baru le muka sorang-sorang ceria dan tersenyum lebar.


Gambar kat bawah nie adalah Victoria... apa ke nama dia ek..lupa la pulak, jual pakaian. Tapi ok le beli baju budak-budak. Berdekatan dengan Donatello (jual kasut, mahal gak), Grande, Raffles City, Glamour, Blossom dan lain-lain.

Interesting Findings

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation. A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is." Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

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NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you." We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television." There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

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NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

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RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you." Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

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PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

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BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery and saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home and committed suicide. Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you wish to take revenge. Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones and hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

"Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One".

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away ". (from an e-mail)

Sakit?

Semalam lagi aku dah tak sihat. Badan rasa lemah semacam je, tekak pulak sakit, selesema kering yang menyakitkan hidung pun datang, batuk-batuk kecil pun ada. Aku bukan perokok, aku peminum minuman yang halal je. Kelas pulak banyak, semalam hari marathon aku sebab kelas sampai malam. Perghh!!! Macam mana nak buat. Ya Allah! Aku bersabar dengan ujian mu. Ye la kata orang bijak pandai, sakit tu ujian Allah untuk mengingatkan kita yang alpa pada Allah, sakit tu nak mengurangkan satu dosa, nak menambahkan satu pahala dan menaikkan satu darjat. InsyaAllah. Tapi bukan le mintak sakit sepanjang masa sebagai jalan mudah mendapat pahala.

Sakit tekak nie ada susah skit. Ya lah, sakit lain sekurang-kurangnya ada polisi insuran yang cover. So kalau pegi hospital ada coverage. Katakan kalau sorang tu kerja dia pemain bola, bila dia injured masuk spital, ada yg tanggung. Dia cedera tak boleh main bola dan dapat pampasan. Katakan kalau model plak, dia ada insuran. Model tu boleh insurankan jari dia kalau jari dia keluar iklan cincin atau barang kemas (ala macam iklan dlm majalah tu), tangan dia ke, kaki dia ke. Kat oversea memang ada, kat Malaysia aku tak pasti. Tapi kalau pendidik ke, guru ke, pensyarah ke kalau dia sakit tekak ada insurance coverage ke? Tak pernah jumpa plak. Padahal pendidik nie kira profesional apa. Bila pendidik nie sakit tekak macam mana dia nak handle kelas atau kuliah. Pendidik nie carik makan guna suara, kalau dah sakit tekak macam mana? Korang sume pernah terfikir tak?

Appreciating Your Mom...

Daughter-In-Law: "When I cooked food which are bland, you will grumble that they are tasteless. Now that I have cooked saltier, you complained that you can't swallow this at all! What exactly do you want?"

When the son came back, the mother immediately ate the food without aword. She stared at him.The son took a taste on his mother's food and spitted out immediately. He ranted at his wife," Didn't I told you that my mother cannot take too salty food?!"

The wife shouted,"OK! She's your mum! You cook for her in future!" Aftersaying that, she stormed into their room angrily. Feeling helpless, the son told the mother,"Mum, don't eat this anymore.I will cook you a bowl of noodles."

The mother said, "Son, you have something to tell me? Don't keep everything to yourself."

Son:"Mum, I am going to get promoted soon and my upcoming working schedule will be very, very tight...and as for my wife...ummm...she said she will be going out to work...." The mother understood what he meant and said in a begging manner,"Son,please don't send me to the Old Folks' Home.."The son remained silent and tried to think of a good reason to persuade her mother.Then he said," There is nothing wrong with the Old Folks' Home. Once my wife had went out to work, no one will serve you as well as the Home which provides you meals and care. It would definitely much better than being at home."

The son went for a bath after that and went into the Study Room. He looked out from the windows and thought back and hesitated a while....His mother has been remaining as a widow since she was young with him, and brought him up painstakingly, solely.She tried all means to earn as much as she could, in order to supporthim in studying overseas. Yet she expected nothing nor used her pastpainful experience to threaten his son to be filial. While now, his wife is threatening him with the stake of their marriage."Should I send my Mum to the Home?" He asked himself."The only person who will accompany you till the end of your life would be your wife.." said a friend before."Your mother is in old age now, and if she's lucky, she might be able to live for a few more years longer. Why not be filial to her for this period of time? reminded by some relatives. He was stuck in a dilemma. He did not want to think anymore, in order not to affect his decision.

The son found a Home with high standards, built on a beautiful and transquil mountain top. He told himself that he would feel much better when the more he spent.When the son helped his mother into the lobby of the Home, the 42" TV was turned on. The programme shown on screen was a comedy. But no one was laughing.A few old folks, dressed similarly in clothing, were sitting there, in a daze. There was one who was sitting improperly on a sofa, there was one who was bending down to pick up a piece of biscuit from the floor, there was one who was talking to himself... The son knew that his mother likes sunlight, so he chose a room with ample sun rays shining into the room. By viewing out from the room, was a big piece of greenery scene. Few nurses were wheeling some old folks out for some fresh air.It was so pathetic of silence in the background. The sun would still need to set down. Soon it was dusk.

The son told the mother, "Mum, I am leaving." The mother waved to him to say goodbye, opening her toothless mouth..He turned back to look at his mother. She was full of grey hair and wrinkled skin with deep set eyes...He found that she was really old. He remembered when he was six, due to some circumstances, his mother cannot bring him along with her thus temporarily placed him at a relative's home for few days. He recalled hugging his mother's thigh and begged her not to leave him alone. In the end, his mother never leave him alone and decide to stay with him.He stopped thinking and left.When he returned home, his wife and his mother-in-law were busy discarding things from his mother's room, happily.One of the discarded item was his tall trophy which he won as First Prize when he was young. He wrote an essay on "MY MOTHER".

The second item discarded was a dictionary. That was the first gift from his mother, who scrimped and saved for a month in order to buy for him.He shouted, "Enough! Stop discarding anymore!"His mother-in-law cried," There were so much rubbish. If don't discard, there would not be any place for my stuff.."His wife continued, "Yeah! Need to dump away that old, stinky bed of your mum too. We will buy a new bed for my mum later,"He saw some pictures from the stack..they were taken at a zoo and amusement park when his mother brought him there." These are precious belongings of my Mum! You can't discard them!" "What sort of attitude is this? I demand you to apologise to my Mum NOW!" ranted the wife.The husband said," When I got married with you, that showed that I will love your Mum too. But why can't you do the same too?"

He went back to the Home and saw his mother weeping in between her frail legs. She was missing the moments when her son would apply ointment for her every night...The son kneeled before her and said, "Mum, here I come. I brought the ointment too."The mother said," I will apply it myself, Son! You still need to work tomorrow. Go home, Son!"Son said, "Mum, please forgive me! Let's go home!"

_____Hope this is inspirational and touching to you.Without our parents, we won't be here.No parents will resort to harm their own children. They only want the benefits for them.

For Daughters & Sons: Please remember to return gratitude to your dads and mums. For Daughter-In-Laws & Sons-In-Laws: Please love your in laws as you did to your parents, coz without them, you will not find your partners...they are parents too..

(from an e-mail)